This Fucker contradicts himself seriously . . .

Hey, who can teach this dude to stop scolding others for the 'errors' that he is making at the same time?

It all started by me trying to inform him about a piece of news which I read. Alright, granted, I may not do a good job because I did not phrase the news in perfect English without grammatical errors in one whole sentence. This, seriously, happens quite often, to both him and me and to any other Singaporeans as well, including his own sister and mother and father. But hey, today, he decided to jump on it and throw his weight around. So he ordered me to repeat and repeat the sentence until he was satisfied, which took more then 20mins. He would correct the front part of the sentence, and then the last part of the sentence, and then the words used, and then the structure of the sentence. Oh, he gave so many stupid instructions.

He told me to tell the story in one sentence, not two. So I tried to do it in one sentence. After many rounds of correction, he decided that I could say it in two sentences. Once he suggested it, he regretted cos he had instructed me to word the whole story in one sentence. So he dared to suggest breaking the sentence into two parts, seperated by the 'err. errr... what do you call the one with the dot and the comma below'. (Fancy telling me to phrase my sentence in perfect English while he couldn't even name a punctuation correctly.) So I said 'semi-colon'. OK, so he wanted me to finish up the story in one sentence, with a semi-colon. So I went on to phrase a sentence in 2 parts. He told me I did not mention where the semi-colon was (omg, he needed me to tell a story in perfect English in one sentence with a semi-colon and to tell him where my semi-colon will appear). Alright, so I repeated my sentence, verbally telling him where I had inserted a semi-colon. After repeating it 2-3 times with him correcting and correcting me, he then demanded me to just give a pause at the semi-colon. (Alright, let's tune back the clock, at first, when I phrased the sentence in 2 parts, I of cos did a pause between the 2 parts, which I was corrected. So just now, I was instructed to tell him where the semi-colon was placed, and now I was instructed to leave out the semi-colon and replace with a pause, which I was doing it just now. And on both occasions, he took it that I had made a mistake and just didn't know how to get things right. Don't you think he was messing it up instead?)

He instructed me not to use 'got it' because you do not 'get' a forecast wrong. Alright, I changed my words used. The next thing I know, he was phrasing the sentence, using 'got it'. And he had insisted that it was used in a different way. Using it in his context was correct because now we have a semi-colon in the middle of the sentence. Oh! So suddenly, with a semi-colon in the middle, you can 'get' a forecast wrong. Without the semi-colon, you cannot 'get' a forecast wrong. Which English teacher graduated him? I wonder!

All the while, I did not raise my voice, and I did whatever he told me to. So did he stop his naggings and tantrums? Hey, no! He grew angrier and angrier and started banging the steering wheel. I kept my cool and just kept on correcting my sentence till he was satisfied. Finally, I got it right. So did he stop? Of course not! This is the fucking idiot that I am talking about! He carried on condemning and demeaning and belittlering. I waited for a silent moment, and calmly mentioned to him that for 30mins, I had not rebutted and had been trying to change. I had kept my side of the bargain. So why did he blow up?

So, this is the nice part. He said that I had a good attitude didn't mean he shouldn't be angry. It was not about the attitude. Oh great! So it doesn't matter if my attitude is good or bad right? You'll still have the right to get angry. Or you are just trying to tell me that everything must be perfect, my attitude, my answers, my facial expression, my tone of voice, etc.... before you wont' get angry? But you told me that you normally won't be that angry, it was always because of my attitude that made you blow up. Now, the story changed. The attitude doesn't matter, it is just the basic. Now, apart from the basic, my answers have to be perfect before you won't blow up. Errrr..... did you say that your principles had never change ever since when you knew me?

And then you told me not to ask any stupid questions. Alright, I'll not ask questions in case you decided to label all my questions as stupid. So I TOLD you that I wanted to get out of the car. Which you reacted like I had rebutted and showed attitude. Basically, I couldn't do what I want and I couldn't tell you what I want to do, and i couldn't ask you any questions, KING!!!! Is that what you want? Go get a robot, just a simple robot will do, cos nowadays robots have emotions too, not like what you had wanted me to be like.

Finally, you instructed me to go up for the newspaper at your parents' house. I was, to put it briefly, elated!!!!! Getting you out of my sight was my top priority, who wants to breathe the same air as a jerk! I went up, luckily his dad want the car and followed me down. At least I had a moment of peace. Oh, he acted as if nothing has happened. He happily told me to read an article in the papers in front of his dad. Yeah, hypocrite!

Of course, with this bastard, things do not end just like this. His naggings started right when we entered the lift at our flat. And it continued all the way till we were in the house. He even ordered me into the room cause he wanted to talk to me. (Yeah, talk again, you have so much to nag about. You are just unbelievable!)

After his naggings, he asked me what I wanted to say. I simply asked him did he not show me respect just now. He said yes. So I demanded an apology. Yup, he gave it, along with 'ifs' and 'buts'. (Didn't he set a rule not to have 'ifs' and 'buts' while apologizing? I had not done it for as long as I could remember. He was the one doing it every single time. Wonder how he lives up to his own standard when he says he will never lower his standards of anyone.) After he finished his 'ifs' and 'buts', I again demanded an apology but with no 'ifs' and 'buts'. Did you know what he asked me? He said 'for what'!!!!!!!! Is he dumb? I said for not showing respect to me. He said 'tell me when'. Hey guys, tell me again, is he dumb?????? I told him that he had agreed that just now he had shown disrespect to me, but now he had the cheek to ask me when did he not show respect to me???????

Fine, I told him I'll name a few examples. I said he had refused to let me speak unless I am asked to, he had refused to let me say what I feel unless I am asked to, and I was not allowed to leave the car unless I am asked to. He stopped me, and told me I was long-winded, he told me what respect do i deserve when I don't speak things to the point, and I wasn't even answering his questions. HOLY COW!!!!!!! Your question was when did you not show me respect. I told you I'll name a few examples and while naming them you can tell me that I am not answering your question?????????? Tell me whos' English is lousy?

I blasted back at him to listen well. He asked the question and I was answering. What was wrong with that? He realised that he had lost the plot himself because he forgot what question he asked. May god bless him! I asked him if a person who doesn't even remember what question he asked and blamed others for not getting to the point deserves to be respected. He laughed and apologised. Oh, so laughing and apologising for your own stupid mistake is acceptable while I had to be scolded like nobody's business if this happened to me. And of course I had to stop calling him names once he apologised. I had to watch my words depending on situations you know. So I stopped. (But of course, he still chose to say that I just didn't know when to stop talking.) I repeated my answers and demanded an apology with no 'ifs' and 'buts'. He apologised. Within one minute, he didn't say 'but', he said 'don't make me mad the next time ok'. Hey, do me a favour, put a 'but' in between the apology and the 'don't make me mad the next time'. How does it sound? Sounds fluent? Yes, of course. This jerk just didn't say 'but', but he continued to turn the table around at me immediately after apologizing. How sincere, yea!

He then continued to point the finger at me, telling me not to blame others for my own mistakes. I really don't know what he meant. He probably meant that it was my mistakes that caused him to be angry. Read again. It was my mistakes that CAUSED HIM TO BE ANGRY. He was blaming me for causing him to lose his temper, while he lectured me on not to blame others for my own mistakes! Some jerks just can't seem to wake up their ideas!

He told me not to rebut him and rebutting him is to say things that oppose to what he is saying, and to speak when I am not asked to. I told him that a few nights ago, he told me that rebutting is not to raise my voice. So he said it's both now. (What do you call unreasonable? This is it! His principles had never change ever since day 1. But his meaning of rebuttal changes quite often.) Is he contradicting himself? I wonder how does his brain look like. He says rebutting is not to speak when I am not asked to. And then when I asked him if he had showed disrespect to me when I was not allowed to speak unless I was asked to, he said yes. So he should show me respect and let me speak my mind even when I was not asked to, but on the other hand, I should not rebut, which is not to speak my mind unless i was asked to. And then he said he wants to change and show me respect. What gives!!!!!! Then he says I don't deserve his respect until I earn it. No wonder I don't respect him too, cos he didn't earn anything!

And of course, he always want the last word! Give it to him, he can have his last say. Which is . . . 'don't make me mad ok'! So summary is, he will try to respect me, which means he should let me say what I want when I wanted, but I shouldn't make him mad, which means I still cannot say what I want when i wanted!

No wonder our quarrels never end. HE BIZARRELY CONTRADICTS HIMSELF AND STILL THINKS THAT HE IS ALWAYS RIGHT!

The Fucker is such a Miss Fussypot

He fuck care when others are not feeling well, he just want the whole world to be at his service and bid and call. Just jolly well ask for a better clarification when you don't understand, do you need to blow your top when others didn't talk in a way you understand, do you need to be very angry with someone just because she pointed out a mistake that you make?

He asked me what I meant by tie-line. I said it's an internal line used by my company to call each other which does not require us to dial overseas. He didn't get what I meant cos he thought I said 'Thailand'. So he asked, so why do I need to call 'Thailand'. I realised he heard wrongly, and so mentioned again, it's 'Tie-line', not 'Thailand', we can call a local number to transfer ourselves to another number to talk. Then he asked me how to spell it, I spelt it for him. Then he started to throw his temper, accusing me of being stupid, don't know how to explain things clearly, keep blabbering about the same point, didn't try to ask myself why other people do not understand me, why can't I spell it for him first, and the word is read 'die' not 'tie'. I then said 'tie' is pronounced 'tie', not 'die', you 'tie' things, not 'die' things. Then he realised and said OK, and the next thing I know, he blew up and nagged non-stop at me not doing things the correct way and so forth. WHAT THE BLOODY HELL IS WRONG WITH YOUR FUCKING BRAIN!!!!!!! If I wasn't clear and you think you'll get what I mean by getting me to spell it, then you just JOLLY WELL KINDLY ASK ME TO SPELL IT!!!!!!! (which I did immediately) Do you need to scream your head off and spoil the day? Can you swear that anybody has always understood you whenever you try to explain things the very first instance? (Oh, of course not, cos when it happens, you just blame it on others that they are stupid.)

I kept quiet all the way, I'm too uncomfortable and I have no energy to quarrel with you, I'm not in the mood and my reaction is probably not fast enough at this point of time. Anyway, you had said not to rebut right?

But, no price for guessing, I didn't rebut, so what? It doesn't make a difference anyway, the more he nag, the more his temper got the better of his stupid brain. Soon, he was banging doors and calling me to threaten me and sending sms to tell me off. Yeah, nothing new!

For all those efforts of not rebutting, the result is still the same. This Miss Fussypot who just happened to have a men's body was demanding from a person who is not at a 100%, for a description that's right out from the ten year series, and an immediate apology for not giving him one, or at least apologise while he was around in the house, or apologise when he called (damn, why do I have the feeling that if I had apologised, it would make no difference, it just gives him another chance to nag and scold and refuse to butt, at least now, he was on the way to fetch his friend, he would cut it short or at least stop when he reached to pick up his friend.)

Oh, and this fucker has short term memory. In the middle of the 'scolding' (because communication just flow one way, him scolding, and me saying 'yes', 'no' and 'sorry' only, I can't be bothered to quarrel or rebut or explain or say anything else), he 'instructed' (as he put it) me to stop saying 'yes' or 'no' to him, just prove it to him instead. After which, I said 'sorry'. Then he flew into a rage again, over what? Guess! He said 'you don't know how to listen to instruction? I told you not to say 'sorry' yet you say it again'. And there he went again, scolding and nagging and then hang up the phone. Hey fucker, you said not to say 'yes' or 'no', and not 'sorry'. You can't even keep up with your own instruction, you should be hanged!!!!!

This Fucker needs to get angry like we need to drink water . . .

Yea, if he doesn't throw tantrum for one day, he may die like we die of thirst when we don't drink water.

We were happily going for dinner, our first meal of the day together (cos he only woke up close to evening time). This time, I did nothing wrong and said nothing wrong. He just saw people jogging while we were heading to dinner. That was already enough to push him off the edge (he seemed to have this nerve about other people jogging while he is not, it doesn't matter if he did jog last night or he was too lazy to jog for the whole week. If he is heading for food, or if he is heading for some getaway or leisure time with me, he just can't stand it if other people are jogging at the same time to keep healthy. Be it that guy had just came back from a getaway or he had finish his leisure activities with his family, or he had pigged out for a whole month. The moment he sees others jogging while he is not, he gets upset! Don't you think he needs treatment? He should move himself to stay in the gym, so that at anytime of the day, he can laugh at others outside the gym, who are not working out while he works out in the gym, which fulfills his self satisfaction of living a healthy lifestyle. He shouldn't eat, nor celebrate anything, nor have some leisure activities, nor work. Cos once he is not exercising while he spots others doing it, his blood boils!). He turned to me and asked me if I wanted to go jogging tonight. Read my answer very carefully! I SAID 'OK'! He nagged at me again for not exercising enough and he asked again if we should go jogging tonight. I SAID 'OK'! Guess what his reaction was?

He nagged and nagged and got angrier and angrier and finally he was scolding me about not exercising. Honestly, I was bewildered (and at the same time I was thinking to myself what a nice way to start our first activity of the day together)! I waited for him to finish before telling him to calm down and reminding him that all was well just now, until he saw others jogging, then I agreed to jog together tonight, so why was he so worked up? Guess what comes next! He complained that I was showing a bad attitude because I was raising my voice to talk to him. Cool! He was wrong enough to start the naggings out of the blue but was scolding me for raising my voice when I talked to him. Whatever, he's a jerk, what can you expect from him! I apologised and talked to him with a softer voice. But, knowing him, when did he ever stop just like that? He continued to nag and scold and throw vulgarities and demeaned me all the way to the entrance of the shopping centre. Then he asked me if we have a problem and how can we help ourselves. I finally managed to speak and made him agree to stop harping on the issue while I agree to keep my voice down while I talk to him. He said 'OK! But I want to say it one last time . . . .' Hey, I'm so tired of this. What is the OK for if you wanna say something more immediately after that, and of course the something is to blame me or warn me or lecture me on what I should not do. This can sum up to still harping on the issue. And after he agreed to not harp on the issue by saying 'OK', he immediately harps on the issue again, just show that he has no discipline and he is not a man of his words.

Knowing him, when he wants to say it one last time, it just mean that he will repeat all that he had said earlier, phrasing and rephrasing it again. So he went on and on nagging me again, right after he agreed to stop. Luckily, a phone call came in and he stopped to talk on the phone. But what happened after he hanged up? He went back to nagging at me. How nice! I waited for a moment before reminding him that we just agreed to stop harping on it and move on. I heaved a sigh of relief when he heeded my advice.

We went to the restaurant where we wanted to have dinner. It was a very long queue and he decided to give up. He wanted to go back for the car and drive to some other place for dinner. He wanted to check if I was very hungry and if I could hang on for dinner. So he asked if I was hungry. I said yes. He asked me if I was very hungry. I said hungry but not very hungry. Then, he started to nag again. See, the trick is I cannot say that I am hungry (even at 7+pm, dinner time), it didn't matter if I was hungry or very hungry, I just cannot reply that I am hungry. He started telling me off about not heeding his advice to eat many small meals a day. Seriously, why do I have to eat many small meals a day when I do not easily feel hungry in between meals. Does he expect me to eat something no matter I'm hungry or not just so that I will never be hungry when he ask me this question? Do a survey, how many working class out there have the time and convenience to eat many small meals a day as and when they want it. It's crazy. He doesn't even do it himself. He also has times that he feels hungry. So why can't I feel hungry during dinner time? You mean it's not appropriate to feel hungry at dinner time and I'm to be blamed because I did not take my tea break? If I take my tea break, then I probably won't need to even take dinner, I'm a small eater. So just because of this, he started to nagged again, non-stop all the way from the 2nd floor down to the entrance of the shopping centre.

Only when I reminded him that we had agreed to stop quarreling at this same spot outside the shopping centre just now, did he finally cool down and stop. It is such a chore to go through this every other day, if not hour. And it all stemmed out from just noticing that there are people jogging while he was heading for food.

DUH!!!!!!

A fucker who will pour salt onto your wound, and pass you wood when you are on fire

Fancy telling me to watch the 'weather' while talking to him and be smart to choose my words, timings, tone and face. But himself brushed aside all these just consideration and wouldn't shut his gap up!

I had been on a loosing streak for a few weeks of mahjong sessions. I wasn't feeling all that bad, I mean, there will be times like these in our lives, that things just won't go right. And I understand. But I couldn't understand why a person who likes to preach about talking the right things at the right time, could do such wrong.

On the way back from our mahjong session, he said that I deserved to lose because I made an error about not take the right tile from the stack which result in letting him win the game. He said it was lucky we were playing with his mum and sis. Yeah, I had said my apologies during the game and took the occasional pricks that came after that happened. It was the first time I had made such mistake, after 7 years of playing mahjong with them. Even his mum and sis knew that it was not intentional and I rarely made mistakes. But I didn't expect my own husband, who won, to give me such harsh remarks.

He not only told me I deserved to loose, he told me I did not respect the game. I was reeling from his remark and commented that I did not disrespect the game, it was just a pure honest mistake. For this, he gave me a good scolding for the next 10 minutes at least. He said I should just say sorry before saying I did not disrespect the game.

HOLY COW!!! Try being accused by your wife when she obviously knew that you didn't do it on purpose. And you mean you expect me to stay calm and APOLOGISE to you first?????

Hey, it was an unfair comment to begin with. He knew it was unintentional, but yet he accused me of being disrespect to the game, and then expect me to apologise for it. It was such an uncalled for comment. To disrepect the game is to intentionally foul and cheat to win. Firstly, I did nothing intentional to that aspect, second, I did not win. For such an over-the-edge remark, he expects me to APOLOGISE!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I can't remember what went on till we reach home, I just remembered him roaring away about why I rebutted him and why I did not apologise first. And me apologising for that, but demanding why he must use such harsh words when he obviously knew it wasn't the truth. He apologised for that but within a minute he blew into a rage again over I don't know what else. And then me telling him that he has to be clear on what made me angry and what made him angry. I was angry because he said something, he was angry because I did NOT say something. Which is more serious? He intentionally said something to hurt me or me because of that DID NOT say something to please him? So we quarreled all the way back to our carpark. Finally when I got a chance to speak, I told him that he told me not to compare and use the same words he used on me to scold him, but he had done just that. I had asked for respect from him, but before he started to live up to his promise, he had used the same word and demanded respect from me towards him. I told him what is respect if I did not apologize to him when he roared at me for it, what is respect when both he and I knew that he was at fault, but yet I gave in and apologised instead. But did he ever even let me speak my mind when I feel strongly for something? No, I'm supposed to apologise first, regardless of what's the truth. Is this the respect that I should be getting? Does he mean that he would only give respect to me when I do what he want first? That is not giving me respect, that is me giving him respect because the truth is out there, I am not wrong but I apologise, and he is wrong but yet he demanded to be apologised before apologising. What crap!