After a good break....
It's good to take a break now and then. Travelling gives a opportunity to test the relationship. And travelling with friends gives an even better opportunity to let him see how other couples deal with every day miscommunications and mishappiness.
He has to learn how to stay in a relationship. It's not about he and himself only. There will surely be friction, miscommnications, misunderstandings and such when you stay with each other every day. And it's not worth it to blow up just because of these small little things and ruin the whole day's mood.
He has to learn that whatever mood and behaviour he portrays will either benefit or backfire. It's sad that we sometimes have to check our emotions when in front of others. But it's the way to live. Humans are not islands. We need to socialise, we need to stay in touch. We are not with the friends all the time. And they only form impressions with what they see when they are with us. So if he is going to order me around and throw tantrums over small matters, that's how others will judge his character. No matter how kind he is to me in private, no matter how considerate he is during times in private, it doesn't matter. And who will loose out ultimately? Him! And I do not want it to be so. He has his good points, he just have to check all his unreasonable behaviour to be a better man. He may at times help others, but bad impression stays longer and deeper than good ones, unfortunately. Others may not reciprocrate his helpfulness as they view it as a one-off situation compared to the times when he portrayed himself as a bully.
I seriously am very glad that we had went on this trip. And I seriously am very grateful that the friends we had with us have, in one way or the other, provided opportunities for me (unknowingly) to prove my points to him. He can't force his way on things just because his short temper rules. Because ultimately, he is gonna pay a price for his tyranny. It's not worth getting a win temporarily and loosing out in the end as others start judging him and make things difficult.
I do hope that this tour has changed his way of dealing with his temper. We had a couple of squabbles at the start of the trip. I had chances of pointing out to him the big disadvantages that we get out of it. He had assured me that he sees the light now and will change. I do hope that things will be better from now on....
Pray hard, Caller!!!
He has to learn how to stay in a relationship. It's not about he and himself only. There will surely be friction, miscommnications, misunderstandings and such when you stay with each other every day. And it's not worth it to blow up just because of these small little things and ruin the whole day's mood.
He has to learn that whatever mood and behaviour he portrays will either benefit or backfire. It's sad that we sometimes have to check our emotions when in front of others. But it's the way to live. Humans are not islands. We need to socialise, we need to stay in touch. We are not with the friends all the time. And they only form impressions with what they see when they are with us. So if he is going to order me around and throw tantrums over small matters, that's how others will judge his character. No matter how kind he is to me in private, no matter how considerate he is during times in private, it doesn't matter. And who will loose out ultimately? Him! And I do not want it to be so. He has his good points, he just have to check all his unreasonable behaviour to be a better man. He may at times help others, but bad impression stays longer and deeper than good ones, unfortunately. Others may not reciprocrate his helpfulness as they view it as a one-off situation compared to the times when he portrayed himself as a bully.
I seriously am very glad that we had went on this trip. And I seriously am very grateful that the friends we had with us have, in one way or the other, provided opportunities for me (unknowingly) to prove my points to him. He can't force his way on things just because his short temper rules. Because ultimately, he is gonna pay a price for his tyranny. It's not worth getting a win temporarily and loosing out in the end as others start judging him and make things difficult.
I do hope that this tour has changed his way of dealing with his temper. We had a couple of squabbles at the start of the trip. I had chances of pointing out to him the big disadvantages that we get out of it. He had assured me that he sees the light now and will change. I do hope that things will be better from now on....
Pray hard, Caller!!!
posted by Caller From The Falls at 1:27 AM
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